Nine months ago when I gave birth to my youngest son, Caden, my oldest, Julian was absolutely thrilled. He was excited to help feed him, change diapers and just spend time with his little brother. He would brag to everyone that he had a little brother and show him off like he was a prize.
Well fast forward to today and the excitement has worn off. Now I find the jealousy everyone told me about in the beginning has finally kicked in. Julian does any little thing he can to annoy Caden. For example, If Caden is crawling to something, Julian will secretly push the item further & further away so he can’t get it. If Caden is sleeping, Julian will touch and poke at him so he will wake up. Then he walks away and acts like he didn’t do it. If I’m doing something for Caden such as, feeding him, changing his diaper or even just playing with him, it just happens to be the exact time Julian “needs” me “really quickly”. Sometimes Julian will tell me and the people around him that Caden isn’t his brother. He will say “he’s my cousin”. He says that he is just joking when I ask why he says it but I’m starting to think maybe there is a little more to it.
I don’t want to yell at Julian for doing all these things but at the same time I don’t want him to think its okay. I’m kind of stuck on what to do. I don’t want him to ever feel he is loved any less then he was before Caden was here. I try to balance my time between the two since I am a SAHM but I feel like it’s still not enough. I remind him I love him 30 times a day (literally lol) so I don’t think he doesn’t know it. But I don’t know what else to do. HELP